Happiness, Health, Love, and Wealth

Let me preface this post with the following: I find that my mind wanders around from thought to thought on a near constant basis; it doesn’t seem to rest even when I’m essentially doing nothing or trying to sleep. In those moments when I’m not really thinking about anything per se, I still have those repetitive thoughts; for me they’re a group of words and the first few are things I’m fearful of and then the last is slightly more upbeat. Recently I decided to change my thinking from things I don’t want to things which I do want; Happiness, Health, Love and Wealth.

When I was a boy, in year 8 if I recall correctly, I was playing in a state school boy golf tournament and on the first hole, I saw a helipad directly in front of the tee. The golf course is located on the premises of a hospital, in case you were wondering why there is a helipad there…anyway, being a bit nervous I asked the coordinator what happens if I hit the ball on the helipad. He laughed and replied with, something like, “that’s impossible, there’s no way you can get the ball to only go that far even if you hit a bad shot; just hit the ball”. So there I am with my driver, nervous and thinking constantly about that helipad roughly 10-20 feet away from me. I swing and smash the ball; the only thing is, the ball somehow goes almost directly up, quite a distance up, in the air and then lands and stays directly in the centre of the helipad. The coordinator was shocked! I was so embarrassed and he just said, “I have no idea how you were able to pull that shot off, be-it an awful shot, but with a driver there is nearly no way possible for that to have happened!” but it did! And why? I was focused solely on the helipad, that’s why!

One more golfing analogy; I know you love it! It was said that Jack Nicklaus, “The Golden Bear” would get into “the zone” during major tournaments and while in “the zone” would only see where he needed his ball to go next. Did he see all the crowds when he was addressing the ball? Did he see all the bunkers, trees, water hazards, etc? No.

The trick isn’t some magical, new ager, mystical hogwash but simple mind over matter. Your mind can create your reality and being happy, for the most part; I know life isn’t always roses but being happy is a state of mind and a choice! I’m not suggesting that you can use your mind to change the reality that the desk you’re sitting at isn’t really a desk but a new sports car but how you interpret the images and sounds that are the inputs to your mind can help you begin to see opportunities where previously you thought there were none; the nay sayer will always find reasons for why an opportunity is not as good as it promises to be. Remember that not every opportunity will eventuate in the desired outcome, but never following an opportunity will ensure you never get anywhere you desired.

So, back to my initial paragraph. I started repeating the words “Happiness, Health, Love and, Wealth”, in that order, over and over again in mind in my quiet moments and you know what, I’m starting to smile more, the incessant chest pains from heartburn or indigestion (turns out they were more than likely anxiety attacks) fade away. Why not give this mantra of sorts a go yourself and tell me in the comments section below how it helped you or what your mantra is.

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Used to be on radio; maybe back on-air again one day. Somewhat creative. Occasionally funny. Lover of Tabasco sauce and beer - not always together. Linux user.
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Used to be on radio; maybe back on-air again one day. Somewhat creative. Occasionally funny. Lover of Tabasco sauce and beer - not always together. Linux user.

2 thoughts on “Happiness, Health, Love, and Wealth

  • January 17, 2014 at 11:57 am
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    It’s strange how focusing on things a lot seems to make them happen. I’ve had similar things happen to me throughout my life, most involving some sort of public humiliation haha. But in recent times I have started to become worried that all my negative (anxious/depressive) thinking would have this exact same effect. When I obsess about how badly I feel, it only seems to reinforce it. Negativity breeding more negativity. But the anxious thoughts have become so natural and habitual that I have to put conscious effort into turning them around. I’m sure that this is possible though and I hope that positive thoughts become habit if I keep trying. It’s a bit of a bumpy road, and I fall off the wagon a lot, but its worth persisting. I think that you’re absolutely right that we should keep our minds on the good things as much as possible. By focusing on the things that we want, as opposed to the things that we fear, we might actually find good things happening. The less time we spend dwelling on fears, the less power they have over us. My mantra would be the same as yours (I might steal it), I guess those are the things that most people want. Otherwise I fall back on Bill Murray’s mantra from ‘What About Bob?’ (a movie I sadly relate to too much!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ErQUYNeYfM
    Thanks for writing this article!! I hope you find all the good things :)

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  • January 17, 2014 at 12:17 pm
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    I also forgot to mention above, did you see the ABC series ‘Redesign my Brain’ with Todd Sampson? In the 3rd episode he was learning to play darts, and they taught him that by doing no actual practice but by IMAGINING that he was hitting the centre of the dartboard for a few mins each day, he improved him accuracy by a lot the next time he played. So just the repetitive thought of being able to do it, was enough to improve his ability! This surely works in other areas of life, by imagining ourselves as happy or successful or whatever, perhaps it helps it to come about!

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